This is one of my more controversial topics. I hope it will not offend anyone, as I am just sharing my personal opinion. :) This was a causal essay, and the point was to argue that a certain action will reap either positive or negative effects. Thus, I chose to argue that Corporal Punishment reaps positive effects. It's something I'm rather passionate about, although I will not say that it is the only correct form of discipline. I am sure that in some cases, other methods certainly suffice! :) I am, obviously, not speaking from the experience of being a parent. However, I am speaking from the experience of being raised under this form of discipline - loving correction through corporal punishment. I know that it benefited me tremendously, and I will be forever grateful to my parents for choosing to raise me in this manner. :)
Anyhow, I hope it is enjoyable and possibly even beneficial! :)
Anyhow, I hope it is enjoyable and possibly even beneficial! :)
Discipline in Love
The natural default in human nature is to blame someone or something else for all shortcomings. No person truly wishes to accept the fault of a mistake; nevertheless, it is a necessary way of life to give judgment where it is due. When a child behaves wrongly, it is imperative that she realize her own accountability for the offense. The consistent enforcement of corporal punishment proves to a child that she must face consequences for her negative actions.
The main reason for the success of corporal punishment is a child’s instinctive understanding of pain. As Gary Ezzo points out in his parenting course, Growing Kids God’s Way, pain exists as a signal to alert one that something is not as it should be (202). This natural signal to physical danger also translates to moral dangers. Ezzo states, “The sensation of pain draws attention to foolish decisions that can lead to wrong behavior” (204). A young child who may not be old enough to comprehend why something is wrong will understand a spanking due to her intuitive response to pain. Just as a person who touches a hot pan is not likely to risk pain by touching it again, this understanding will teach the child to avoid repeating the action that initially caused her pain.
Another key factor in corporal punishment is consistency in its administration. When a child has the guarantee of receiving a spanking for misbehavior, she will realize that there are inevitable consequences for her actions. The repetition of the punishment will strongly ingrain into a child the knowledge that she cannot expect to rebel without incurring judgment. Just as it takes multiple instances to create any habit, consistent consequences for an offense will cause a child to form a habit of obedience.
Furthermore, a child raised under the discipline of corporal punishment will be more likely to carry that sense of responsibility into her adult life. When a child’s parents administer a spanking as a result of her misbehavior, she will see that she is the only one directly suffering for her actions. As a result, she will remember later in life that if she rebels, she will be the one who must accept responsibility.
In addition to responsibility, corporal punishment also teaches respect. When a child receives a spanking for his mistreatment of someone else, he will develop an innate sense of respect for others. Respect has multiple aspects. For instance, if a child promptly receives a discipline after acting negatively toward a friend or sibling, he will learn that he should treat everyone with kindness. As he grows older, he will eventually understand that kindness is a form of respect that all deserve. He will also realize that failing to treat others kindly often reaps unpleasant results.
Likewise, the way one responds to authority also demonstrates respect. The article, “Corporal Punishment”, suggests that “overly permissive parents who do not spank are partly responsible for fostering social problems such as…young people’s disrespect for adults” (1). Parents willing to spank their child for disregarding authority will teach him proper courtesy toward his elders. A humble and respectful attitude toward authority is a vital trait for a child to learn. A child who possesses this quality is often pleasant for adults to be around; and when he grows older, adults will be impressed with his maturity. This admiration from adults also gives a child’s parents a good reputation. As the Bible says, parents who faithfully train their children will enjoy the results later (Proverbs 29:17).
Yet another benefit of corporal punishment is the way in which it declares the care and concern of parents for their children. The Bible states, “Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them” (Proverbs 13:24). When parents correctly administer a spanking, it will show a child the concept of a loving form of correction. Children are inclined to view discipline as being only negative. However, if parents take the time to explain to their child the reason for the spanking, let her know that they do not enjoy it, and finish by reminding her of their love, the child will gradually see punishment as being for her ultimate good.
Once a child reaches the realization that a spanking is for her benefit, she will eventually begin to notice and appreciate specific aspects of her parents’ disciplinary methods. A child will respect – even if it is subconsciously – parents who demonstrate consistency in punishment, rather than allowing her to make poor choices without consequence. When parents are lax in their disciplinary actions, they may communicate to their child that she is not worth the effort. This may even inspire her to further rebel in the hope that it will catch their attention.
Later in life, a child will see that her parents were willing to spank her because they cared about her well-being. As stated in “Corporal Punishment”, when parents take the time to spank their children, they may be sparing them from the harm of many tough issues (5). Looking back on her childhood, an adult will see the many ways in which her parents protected her from harm by administering punishment. At the time, a spanking may have seemed a terrible occurrence, but the result may have been much worse had the behavior gone unattended.
Overall, while the world highly debates and criticizes corporal punishment, it has proven itself a successful child-rearing method. The long-term effects of a spanking are certainly worth the short-term discomfort it may bring. While spankings are unpleasant experiences for all involved, children and parents alike will be thankful for them in the end.